Voices from Russia

Friday, 21 June 2013

Three Cheers for Divorce

00 Vladimir Putin. Russia. wedding. 12.06

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Divorce is never a happy occasion… except when it is. Moan about traditional values all you like, but the truth is, the announcement that Vladimir Putin and his wife, Lyudmila, were separating was a win for both family and common sense. Despite Putin’s carefully scripted public persona, it’s been obvious for years that the first couple was no longer a couple per se. It wasn’t even tabloid rumours of extramarital dalliances that were so disconcerting, it was the sheer awkwardness of seeing a man and woman forced to pretend they were still husband and wife. It reminded one of the waning years of Charles and Diana, minus the tiaras and paparazzi chases. The Putins’ decision to divorce is extraordinary for Russia. Not since Peter the Great has a Russian leader decided to publicly admit that he and his wife were separating. The Romanovs slogged on in unhappy marriages. The Soviets slogged on. It was done for decorum, for politics, for duty. In that sense, a “civilised divorce”, as Lyudmila herself put it, is quite new and refreshing.

All the information about Lyudmila Putina that could be found in the public domain strongly hinted that she wasn’t the kind of woman who had strong ambitions to be first lady… that for her the role was a tremendous burden. Many Russian observers noted that during the televised divorce announcement, Lyudmila for the first time looked happy to be in the spotlight. She looked confident. She looked relieved. Despite looking officious and reserved, Putin also displayed a new, rare kind of emotion. In those few minutes, he appeared to let his guard down and become a man who can display genuine emotion for his wife in a public setting… who can allow himself a single, blink-and-you’ll-miss-it moment of vulnerability. There was affection in his face, and weariness, and relief. Even though the television interview had obviously been staged, there was something going on between the first couple that couldn’t be faked. They were finally moving on with their lives, whatever arguments they had seemed to be over. Whatever resentments still existed suddenly seemed redundant.

Naturally, the move will also score political points for the Russian president. Even his fiercest critics are likely to find little fault with his decision to separate from his wife. In general, Russians tend to have a philosophical view of divorce. It’s rarely seen as a devastating failure, more like a chance to move on with your life. The people who invite scorn and pity are the ones who stick it out in unhappy marriages, whilst the ones who divorce are frequently held up as just a little more courageous. It’s not that divorce is romanticised in Russia. Rather, marriage isn’t romanticised.

There are many different reasons for this distinct lack of the marriage myth, the kind that dictates that your wedding should be “the best day of your life” and so on. Both the lack of an enormous wedding industry and various devastating wars play a major role here. When you’re living an unpredictable existence in a nation used to major social upheaval, you try not to plan too far ahead. As such, most Russians allow themselves to be cautiously optimistic about marriage, and, certainly, tend to admire couples that manage to work it out, i.e. stay together and be relatively happy about it. A lot of these people are going to look at Putin’s divorce and believe that it’s humanised him. It’s made him just one of the guys. His kids are grown. He loves his dogs. He has a lot of work to get lost in, now that his marriage is officially over and there’s no point in pretending. It’s at once a clever political trick and a genuine step forward… a rare moment of when the personal and political collide to create something worth quietly cheering for.

10 June 2013

Natalia Antonova

RIA-Novosti

http://en.ria.ru/columnists/20130610/181604024/Trendwatcher-Three-Cheers-for-Divorce.html

 

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Wednesday, 12 June 2013

Putin Said That He and His Wife are Divorcing

00 Vladimir Putin. Russia. wedding. 12.06

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On 6 June, President Vladimir Putin and his wife Lyudmila Putina announced that their marriage is over. Putin said that there was no need for a Church divorce from Lyudmila, since there was no Church wedding. Putin told RT Television, “As far as the religious side of things is concerned, we don’t have to do anything, as we never got married in Church. In fact, both Lyudmila and I want to speak openly and honestly about what’s happening. This is a much better way of behaving than running and hiding”.

Last Thursday, the president and his wife attended the ballet La Esmeralda at the State Kremlin Palace. A little later, in a television interview, they announced that they decided to divorce after nearly 30 years of marriage. Presidential spokesman Dmitri Peskov said that Putin and his wife haven’t yet formalised their divorce, stating, “They said that they decided to divorce; I can’t say when it’ll be fully legalised, but that isn’t as important as the announcement of the decision”. He noted that Putin’s schedule, including a full travel agenda, is well known. For some time, the president and his wife haven’t lived together. Replying to a question whether Lyudmila Putina, who comes from Kaliningrad, will live in Moscow or whether she’d return home, Peskov said that he hadn’t the right to interfere in anyone’s personal life or comment upon it. He said that the Putins said what they had to say on their divorce, it’s not yet time to make further details public. He noted, on the topic of a possible presidential elopement, “I’ll give you what Vladimir Vladimirovich and Lyudmila Aleksandrovna said, in their words. As for what’s out there, it’s nothing but gossip, rumours, and speculation. It isn’t difficult to look at Putin’s work schedule. It isn’t rocket science. When you do, you realise that his life is probably, unfortunately, devoid of most personal relationships; it’s all too full of the responsibilities and obligations that he bears as the Head of State”.

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11 June 2013

RIA-Novosti

http://ria.ru/society/20130611/942843924.html

Editor’s Note:

There is a major difference between the Church and the papists in the matter of marriage and divorce. For one thing, we hold that civil marriages are “marriages indeed”. That being said, most priests would prefer couples to have a religious Church wedding as well as the registry office affair. However, if one only has a civil wedding, one is considered “married” by the Church. You can have a Church ceremony as well (indeed, it’s preferable to have both), but it’s not strictly and formally necessary for a marriage to occur. After all, marriage as a religious rite is a somewhat late development, relatively-speaking… I’m not denigrating religious marriage; I’m merely pointing up that it wasn’t a primitive facet of Church life. Besides this, the Church accepts that marriages sometimes fail, that divorce is, sometimes, the only way out of a nasty situation for both parties. I agree with VVP, “In fact, both Lyudmila and I want to speak openly and honestly about what’s happening. This is a much better way of behaving than running and hiding”. This is going to INCREASE VVP’s cred… he’s being open and honest about his sticky personal life. Shit happens…

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